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Bogged down by Decisions?
By Kevin

Struggling with making decisions? If so, you're not alone.

Each person makes a ton of decisions throughout their day. Whether it be setting the alarm to wake up or something far more critical, like buying a new car or house. We tend to have difficulty making many different types of decisions. I have struggled with decisions that impact myself and my family, from time-to-time.

Often times I struggled with choosing how to face new opportunities. I tended to worry too much about what others might think about me. I would worry about the long-term impact on my career, my personal life, or the relationships with my family. When it became really difficult, I would put off the decision as long as I could (an anxiety coping skill).

Through my struggles, I have learned from research and personal experience, how important decision-making can be. I have also learned how important it is to make decisions in a relatively limited amount of time. I have coached and counseled others to use three types of decision-making: random, intuitive, or analyitcal.

Random decisions, are quick decisions, with relatively little significant consequences. Saying or doing something without thinking, could be an example of random decisions. Or making a decision without a connection to anything else you have going on in the day is a random decision. My daily random decisions involve what I may choose to eat, say, or choose to wear for the day.

Intiutive decisions are what we determine are truly best based on how we know ourself. Intiution is a collection of experience that helps us know how much time we need to sleep at night, foods we need to eat (or stay away from), or what type of jobs we are best for us to have. For me, intuition tells me I need about 7 hours of sleep in order for me to be at my best for my family and clients.

Analytical decisions are those that require looking at pros versus cons helping us lead to a bigger decisions. We generally need more time to consider several factors, such as how your decision will alter the consequences of your choice. In today's world, these decisions could include buying a car, buying a new home, or making a career change.

In years of experience, I have learned that some of us can analyze for days, weeks, or months, and never reach a decision. I have also learned that some of us quickly make a series of random decisions that lead to a history of highly impulsive actions that have generally led to bad outcomes, if not worse. Random decisions, by their very nature, are best when they are "automatically best" for you, such as daily living habits. Intuititive decisions get easier the more you really learn how to know, love, and care about yourself. The concepts I teach with analytic decision-making is helping people think ahead to possible consequences that will result from their choice.

The process of decisions differ from person to person. The most difficulty we tend to have are in analytical (bigger decisions). My general rule, in helping improve decision-making is to spend no more than 48 hours before making a decision. I have a six-step process to help individuals make critical analytical decisions. If you're interested in receiving this as a PDF, please leave a post or email me at kevin@kevinrfoley.com and I'll send it to you this week.

The bottom line? Don't let decisions, of any size, shape, or importance, weigh you down to the point of indecision. You have a life to live.


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